Friday, June 27, 2008

Oh great. My baby curses like a sailor.

So this morning Tom and Nicky were taking me to work. What can I say, it's been hot and I've been a little lazy in my efforts to "stick it to the man" by taking the bus lately.

Anyway, Tom got Nicky settled in his carseat and crammed himself into the back of the van to try to get the new windowshades set up so Nicky won't roast in the sun. I was in front, starting up the car and the A/C and getting ready to put on my makeup when Tom just got all ticked off at the uncooperative shades, left them in a heap on the floor and crawled into the drivers seat from the back of the van. All the while cursing up a storm.

We've really been pretty good about cursing in front of Nicky, you know, ever since he learned the word "Damnit!" so well. Well, about two seconds after Tom got into his seat and started driving, we heard..."Fuck Ing!" From the backseat. Very distinctly, and with feeling.

We didn't turn around, but we both looked at each other. Yep, we both heard the same thing. Our sweet little boy was using the "F word" in the backseat. At the tender age of two. Super. We hope that by ignoring this completely he'll just forget about it. But every few seconds for the trip, we heard "Fuck Ing" as if he was trying to make sure he'd remember the right syllables and inflection. Sigh.

We'll see if he remembers it later. Tonight at dinner when he wanted to push from the table and his Daddy and Nana pulled him back up to the table he was back to "Damnit!" Which is really sounding less and less like the "Donut!" we'd tried to use as a replacement.

Oy. At least I've documented that it was TOM that taught him his first curse words. :) I knew blogging was good for something!


We're heading to Jacksonville Beach tomorrow for Nicky's first real beach visit. We'd taken him to St. Augustine once when he was tiny, but we totally forgot to get photos and we didn't get in the water or sand, or actually even set him down. He was teeny then. We're planning to get some documentation of this trip though!

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Baptism in Pictures

JM returned from her visit to Canada to visit her daughter, son in law and three grandchildren. She had a great time up there. Now that she's back though, she and Tom's dad came over for lunch. And she brought the photos from the baptism! They're just as fabulous as we all expected. I tried hard to narrow it down to only a few. They're uploaded into photobucket in the 2008 June folder.

I'll just share this one with you here:

This is Nicky with Tom and I and his Godparents, Tom and Aunt Liz. Just to clarify, we found out that godparents do not have to be related at all, so we chose Tom's friend from the RCIA program, Tom, for the Godfather. And for the Godmother we knew we wanted my sister Liz. The only rules for choosing the godparents are that both have to be active Christians and one has to be an active Catholic. Liz is Episcopalian and is very involved in her church. Tom is newly Catholic after having gone through the RCIA process with Tom. (Ok, going to be confusing I can tell! How about we call Godfather Tom "TG" from now on here?)

Anyway, check it out. These photos are great! And with the audio you can hear on the videos I think you get a really good idea of how the ceremony went.

Oh, and one more thing...JM took a great photo of Liz and I with my mom (whom Nicky now calls "Grammie").

Aunt Liz, Mommy and Grammie

Love you Mom!

Thursday, June 19, 2008

A long post about a long baptism

Wondering how that baptism went? You know, the one over a week ago? Well, about that... JM took some photos, but it was the day before she left for her trip to Canada so it will be a while before we see those. Tom's mom was in charge of video, and tried to get some footage of various parts of the mass. We probably should have practiced beforehand though. Below I've marked places where I'll insert the video clips we do have in the appropriate spots.

All our preparations were done on time, even though we waited till the last minute as usual. On Friday Tom and Nana bought a nice button down short sleeved white shirt for Nicky and some white casual pants. I think the shirt was about $12. Not sure what the pants cost as Nana bought those. Definitely cheaper than the $60+ christening outfits I saw online though!

We also got all the food ready the night before, so that we could just come back from church and take everything out of the fridge for lunch. I didn't want to be left with any prep work when we got back. We made meat and cheese platters, sliced several kinds of breads and rolls, had condiments ready, potato salad, macaroni salad, coleslaw, fruit salad, chips and french onion dip, and several kinds of iced tea. Plastic silverware, cups and paper plates were all ready to go. And we had the table pushed up against the wall to serve as a buffet. Chairs were all placed around the kitchen, and we were set! I tell you, fitting all those platters in the fridge was a puzzle, but I managed.

On Sunday we had a quick breakfast and cleaned up so that everything would be ready after church. We expected a total of 12 people to come, including Nicky. We managed to get out the door and to the church with plenty of time to spare. Tom found the lady who was supposed to tell us what to do, and we confirmed that we were NOT doing the full immersion, just the water on the head. She was relieved about that since the priest at the mass was actually a visiting priest and hadn't done a full immersion baptism before.

This was the first time Nicky had been in actual church. The only other time we tried was last fall, and I ended up having to take him outside and chase him around the courtyard fountain for the entire mass. Usually he goes in the nursery now and has a ball playing in there. He did pretty well though, considering. He had 3 grandmothers and a grandfather there to keep him entertained after all.

Right at the start of the mass, when they were getting ready for the processional, where the priest and people come to the front of the church, Tom jumped up and said "come on! we're supposed to walk up with them." Well that was the first I'd heard about it! So we hopped up and practically ran to the back. Then we walked up with them, realizing we should have grabbed Nicky's godparents (my sister Liz and Tom's friend Tom- confusing I know!) so we signaled them as we walked past them to join us. They were on the ball and I don't think it was noticed much.

We had to stand up on the dais behind the priest for a while. I guess that was to let the congregation know that a baptism was going to take place that day. The priest addressed us, we had to answer some stuff (it sure would have been nice to have had a script to study!) and we muddled thru it. We'd thought there would be another child being baptized that day, but Nicky was the only one. After a few minutes we went to our seats.

That's when we really had to work at corralling Nicky for a good 30 minutes or so. Sometime after the gospel we again went up on the stage and stood with the priest this time. Nicky was shirtless for this part and Liz was holding the white outfit he would wear after the baptism.

The priest blessed Nicky and the water, and said a bunch of stuff. He was saying something about God, when Nicky leaned back in Tom's arms and loudly started saying "Oh God! Oh God! Oh God!"

I don't think he was at all concerned that there were 400 strangers looking on. He seemed to feel that being the center of attention was just exactly as it should be.

He did try squirming out of Tom's arms a few times, and saying "Down, dooowwwwnnnn" but Tom held on to him. Then the priest lit a candle and handed it to me. Nicky liked that and said "FIRE!" (We'd been looking at the candles before mass started, talking about fire, and saying it was pretty and hot.)

The priest and a lector said more stuff (there was a lot of that) and the congregation recited some things. After one where everyone said "Amen" Nicky repeated "AMEN!"

(Listen around 1:26 on the video to hear Nicky's "Oh God! Oh God! Oh God!")

After the actual head-wetting, which Nicky was pretty good about actually, they sang a song and we had the clothes blessed and we got to go put Nicky in his new outfit. Actually JM and I took him out of the church and went to let him run off some steam for a bit. We visited the nursery for a minute or two also. This was all during Communion, and we thought we could just stay out for the rest of the mass, but I seemed to vaguely recall that there was one other thing we had to do (based on the ONE baptism I'd seen at this church). So we headed back inside right at the end of Communion.

It was a good thing we returned, because then they did a blessing of the mother and father and then we walked out in the recessional.

And we were done! Photos were taken, gifts were given (a beautiful children's bible from his godfather and more from his godmother and family at home later), and we headed home for lunch. As it turns out, four of our guests couldn't come, so we had plenty of food! I think we ate sandwiches for a week. And we STILL have coleslaw and macaroni salad left over. We tossed the coleslaw last night actually.

So, all in all it went off without a hitch. With some laughs for sure though. Tom was congratulated afterwards by church members who said Nicky "says Amen, just like a Christian!" We were surprised everyone could hear him so clearly in the audience.

Photos to come when JM returns from Canada. Nana was so upset to see how the videos turned out. But I just think it's kinda funny. My favorite is the one where you can hear Nicky saying "Oh God!" but you can't see a thing. I probably should have given one camera to Nana and the other one to someone else, but really I didn't think much about it till the last minute. Aw well.

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

So that's why you are supposed to tie them down

We'd been getting away from using Nicky's booster seat (because he hates them) but pulled this out to tie him down so he'd stay at the table with us.

As you can see, we missed a crucial step...

Oh, and speaking of tying things down, we have pretty much given up on trying to put Nicky in escape-proof clothing after he got his diaper off by putting both his legs into one leg of his very snug-fitting zip-up sleeper and then pulled the diaper out the other leg! I mean, how do you fight that?

We even resorted to swatting him on the bare butt, not very hard, and right on his bare hiney, but that just made us feel horrible and he didn't seem fazed in the slightest. He didn't even cry. We never wanted to use spanking with him, and while he didn't do it again for a while, the behavior didn't completely extinguish. For us the trade off between spanking or cleaning up poop just wasn't worth it. We'd rather clean poop.

So we've been trying to get him more interested in going on the potty (no success yet, but it'll come) and listening at his door like crazy during his naps. It occurred to us the other day that we should start using his baby monitor again. That would let us hear as soon as he ripped the diaper off. So we've just got to locate it. I'm pretty sure we still have it...somewhere.

Wednesday, June 11, 2008

LONG Overdue!

Ok, first watch this video.

Then read this article in the Washington Post.

Then write your House Representative. Mine is Corrine Brown, and this was my email to her:
There should be a vote today on Kucinich's 35 articles of Impeachment of President Bush. This action is LONG overdue! Please vote for impeachment so that our Senators can vote on this too.

I really don't know what the democrats have been afraid of. Clinton was impeached for something so incredibly stupid, but impeaching Bush is NOT revenge for that. It's totally separate. We've never had such a horrible president. He is the one who got us into this war on FALSE pretenses.

And I think it's high time the House and Senate take back the power that the executive branch has been stripping away for 8 years. The balance between the three branches of government has been seriously disturbed. The executive branch has empowered itself too much, and this is an opportunity for the Legislative branch to remedy some of that.

Thank you.


I'm also calling my house representative. I hope you will too. These are Corrine Brown's three offices numbers:

To find your own House Representative, go to this site:
(if you need to figure out your zip+4 number go here.)

There should be phone numbers and an email. Since the vote should be today, I suggest doing both. (Normally I just email.)

The vote should be TODAY! Wouldn't it be great for this to make it to the Senate for a vote. I'd love to see Obama's vote on this.

So I see that they chickened out and sent this to the Judiciary Committee, hoping it would just die there. Well I found the Judiciary Committee website and sent them an email. I encourage you to do the same. I think by slacking on this issue, the House is sending the wrong message to everyone. Here is my email:

There was a vote yesterday on Kucinich's 35 articles of Impeachment of President Bush. I see that the House voted to send this to the Judiciary Committee. I write to encourage your committee to hurry along this decision as this action is LONG overdue. I would like to see the House vote for impeachment and then our Senators vote on this also.

I really don't know what the democrats have been afraid of. Clinton was impeached for something so incredibly stupid, but impeaching Bush is NOT revenge for that. It's totally separate. We've never had such a horrible president. He is the one who got us into this war on false pretenses. he's led our country so far astray from our values of individual freedom, civil liberties, and an accountable government.

And most importantly, I think it's high time the House and Senate take back the power that the executive branch has been stripping away for 8 years. The balance between the three branches of government has been seriously disturbed. The executive branch has empowered itself too much, and I see this as an opportunity for the Legislative branch to remedy some of that.

I understand that the presidents days are numbered anyway, but I think by not acting on these articles of impeachment you are sending the wrong message to the executive branch and our citizenry. It is imperative to the operation of our democracy that people see that the executive branch (just like everyone else) is held accountable for its actions.

Don't let this die in committee. Force the House and Senate to do their duty and vote on this.

Thank you.

The webpage for contacting the Judiciary Committee is here.

I promise back to cute Nicky stuff soon!

Tuesday, June 03, 2008

Nervousness and a Wetting

I applied for a new position today. GAH! I was doing really well at being all calm and cool about it until I hit the "send" button. I agonized over every word of my letter and essay, but felt pretty good about the resume I'd already made for my grad school application. I didn't have anyone proof my essay. I should have, but I didn't. Argh!

Ok, time to let it go. Breathe.

Woosh. Ok, I'm better.

So Nicky is getting baptized this weekend. Is this a big deal? I haven't really been to a lot of baptisms. Actually none I think. Well, mine I suppose. But I was like 2 and have only seen a few photos of me with my godparents that I don't even remember.

It's no secret that I'm not really a religious person. Spiritual, yes I think so. I've always felt fine with my own ideas about morality, what happens after we die, the meaning of life and all that. But I've not really been into going to church or anything since I was a kid.

Well last year Tom joined the Catholic church here in town, and that's ok. I don't mind going. It's nice, I like the people, and they're pretty liberal here (right across from the university, so they kind of have to be I think) and Nicky loves playing in the nursery. It's his only real playtime with other kids right now, so that's really good for him.

Tom had brought up about a year ago that he wanted to have Nicky baptized, and I'm cool with that. But I didn't really plan any big party or anything. We're going to go pick up a white polo shirt and shorts on Friday to put on Nicky after the wetting, but I'm not spending a bunch of money on a fancy outfit or anything like that.

My sister Elizabeth is coming up to be Nicky's godmother (hi Liz!) and Tom's friend from church is going to be the godfather. That's something we didn't know. Only one of the godparents has to be a practicing Catholic. the other one just has to be a practicing Christian. Liz is Episcopalian and she'll be a great godmother. And Tom's friend (also named Tom, hi Tom!) is very nice too.

So we have the godparents who'll be up there on the stage (I'm sure there is another name for that) and at this church they usually do full immersion, even on babies! We saw one with two babies (about 7 months and 12 months) a few weeks ago and I was really surprised! I couldn't imagine them getting Nicky to cooperate with that, so Tom finally just asked if they'd do the head-wetting bit instead. They said they would. Whew. Hmm, I wonder if we're supposed to bring a towel...

Anyway. So we have my sister Liz coming, and she's bringing my mom (hi Mom!) that's a 4 hour trip for them. Tom's mom is coming (hi Donna!) that's about a 2 hour trip for her. Tom's dad and JM are coming (hi guys!) that's about a 40 minute trip for them. But it wasn't till last weekend that I realized maybe this is actually a big deal kind of thing and I should have sent announcements or invitations or something. Would my dad want to come? That's a 7 hour drive! Is this really a big thing? So now I'm feeling guilty for not even telling my dad or sister Jessie (Hi Dad and Jessie!) about the baptism in time for them to arrange to come.

But come on. Is this a big thing? Really? Heck I doubt we'd have told anyone except that you're supposed to have some godparents there. I'm just so out of touch I guess on the whole church thing. *sigh* Making churchy faux pas left and right I'm sure.